Sounds like the support group really wasn't a support group. Or at least not a positive group, you are so right it was time for you to leave. I do love this site it does have alot of support!

I think a lot of it is attitude too. I have been on tamoxifen for 4 months. I had to go off Zoloft to start the tamoxifen. I started seriously exercising to combat the side effects I've heard of with tamoxifen - tired, weight gain, joint pain, etc. Exercise also helps relieve depression too. My onc. asked if I had joint pain, fatigue, etc. and offered to put me on a different antidepressant. I said NO. Sure I have joint pain and am tired, but I choose to blame it on the exercise, and it's manageable. Another benefit from exercise - I've lost 14 lbs. and my clothes are loose. And I do have more energy. I try to exercise at least 4 days a week for 40 minutes. It's helping me.

Does anybody have muscle pain? My legs get socsoe!

I've been on Tamoxifen for 18 months. The hot flashes were awful for the first 6 months but have leveled off. I do have joint pain in my ankles and knees and am tired. Also, I have gained a lot of weight in my stomach middle area. It's embarrassing, I look pregnant. I've always been a thin person so the weight issue bothers me the most. The way I look at it is that it is a small price to pay if it does indeed keep me from getting cancer again.

exercise has been what has helped me the most- regaining the muscle I lost and lose the weight I gained during chemo. helps me sleep better, less anxiety. Also just having some time pass since finished chemo. I spent alot of time going thru chemo, and decided to invest similiar time into exercise to get stronger and heal. Start out slow walking, stretch, I have a Cancer Support Community place near me that offers free yoga, tai chi, and other activities, which was a good starting place.