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Just Completed The Last Procedure Of My Reconstruction 3 Days Ago. Why Am I So Depressed When I Thought I Would Be Celebrating!

A MyBCTeam Member asked a question 💭
Freeland, MI

I handled my diagnosis, my BMX, my chemo, my reconstruction with a completely positive attitude. It will be a year on the 17th of June and just now I'm finding myself sinking into such a feeling of fear, helplessness and sadness. Is this a reaction that others have experienced? Could the Tamoxifen have something to do with this?

April 15, 2014 (edited)
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A MyBCTeam Member

oh sweetie, I have experienced the same thing!! my story sounds like a lifetime movie :0 lol
husband of 32 yrs divorced me, lost my kidney to cancer, my husband,my home(he quit making mortgage payments) my children, they sided with him and took the grandchildren too...it was awful, but I survived and did not give in..2 yrs later I get breast cancer and lose my left breast..went thru so much torture emotional and physically, but I survived and never collapsed and then one day BOOM I was a crying mess!!!
I was fortunate enough to get my treatments from CTCA where they provide a physc and therapist, of which I never used, but hey this day,,i called them both, crying so much they thought I was dying. and I was,,emotionally. heres what they said..i finally gave myself permission to grieve. all was behind me, I finally felt safe enough to let my guard down and allow myself the much need grief. so my dear friend, cry, scream ( I personally throw plates) but know that this will pass as long as you go thru all the phases that we need to pass thru!! if you want to chat or need more, please contact

April 15, 2014
A MyBCTeam Member

Congratulations on being DONE!!!! I was 1 year out last month but I know exactly how you feel about feeling depressed!!! I went thru cancer/treatment etc. lifting my family and friends up being Superwoman! Once it was all said and done - I felt awful. Cried all the time; would go from happy to sad in a moments notice, etc. I also am on Tamoxifen and thought maybe that's what did it. My onco wanted me to take an antidepressant which I refused to take. I went to an Eastern Healing dr. who explained to me how the body kind of says "I'm done" after treatment - once the dust settles. I did 3 accupuncture treatments and cannot tell you how much better I felt after that!!! The depression subsided and I felt much happier. I highly recommend accupuncture. Also, if there is a support group where you live, that is also helpful. Hang in there - we survivors have to stick together and remember that we just beat cancer!!!! :)

April 17, 2014
A MyBCTeam Member

Yes, that is completely normal and don't let the doctors tell you different! You were fighting so hard and so busy with everything going on now the reality is sinking in. It's when everything settles down you realize what just happened and the fear of if it will come back again. After I was done the first time I went into such a deep dark depression my husband literally had to pick me up off the couch and take me into the hospital to see a therapist. Get to a doctor and get on some antidepressants! The chemo just put your body thru war now you need to clean up from the toxins that are still in your body. There's so many side effects from chemo that can come long after you're done with the treatments. Make sure you take care of yourself and listen to your body. Good luck and if you want to talk I'm always here.

April 15, 2014
A MyBCTeam Member

Cancer is traumatic. Allow yourself to grieve your loss. As women we feel we can not break down but it truly is okay.

April 15, 2014
A MyBCTeam Member

glad to know my craziness helped someone :) and I do, I have one son back in my life so very much and a man that loves me and adores and treats me better than my hubby ever did!! god is good and he will carry you thru, but you gotta let yourself be human and know its all gonna be ok.

April 15, 2014

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