The hardest part of this is the helplessness. When I was diagnosed, I assumed it was a fluke. There was no history, AT ALL, of breast cancer in my immediate or distant family. I had the genetic testing done just to kind of confirm that in my mind.

As with most parents, I would take a bullet for any of my kids. My daughter's diagnosis has me feeling like I loaded the gun. While intellectually, I know there is nothing I did that caused this, emotionally, I am devastated. When I was going through treatment I was retire, post menopausal, no one depending on me. She is still young and has children and family and career. She may be faced with greater impacts, perhaps hysterectomy? Instant menopause? The long term effects of cancer treatment go on for years. I don't do well with things I cannot control.

Let it all out. Go outside and scream if you need to. Cry until you cant cry any more and then move on to taking care of this issue. Your feelings are perfectly normal. Of course you are angry.
Who wouldn't be, you were told you didn't have the gene so you believed you children were safe.
Lean on each other, support each other and lean on us. I tested negative for the gene as well. All the women on my mother's side died of breast cancer and a number of the males have died from leukemia.
It was not will I get BC but when. I had a calcium deposit that turn into BC. I was told that never happened. I do understand how frustrated and upset this is for you and your daughter. Stress and anger put a lot of stress on your entire body. Please try to focus on getting her well and keeping yourself well. We love you and we are here for both of you. Much, much love, endless prayers and so many hugs. Please continue to let us know how both of you are doing because we do care and we are definitely here for you. Never forget how much we care about both bof you and that we will always, always support you. Please stay in touch.

You said it all! Just know that we are here for you so lean on us. We care deeply. Please keep us posted on your health and hers. We love you. Hugs.

Joanne, I totally understand where you are coming from. When it comes to my kids, I worry and would also take a bullet for them. They are my heart and soul. The saddest part of dying of breast cancer is that they will have to be sad after I am gone, and I hate that. To think one day this could happen to my daughter and she has to go through it alone just tears at me. She lives in the UK and really only has her husband. It is a fluke. But it seems to be happening a lot. I was born with the PIK3 mutation acquired before birth. Not hereditary.

A PIK3CA mutation can cause the PI3K enzyme to become overactive, which can lead to uncontrolled cell growth and cancer.

All you can do is guide your daughter through this, you will understand because you have been there. You will be there to help her make decisions. We all wish the very best for her and would like you to give us updates how she is. ❤️

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May your daughters be protected from any cancer and thrive.

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